Dog mom, boy mom, psychology aficionado, bookworm. Adventure and nature lover. Video game nerd.

Isn’t this hard enough without adding your disapproval to the mix?

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After waking up to dozens of notifications from one of my now former Facebook parenting groups, I’m coming here to spread this message: enough is enough.

The notifications came as a result of defending a fellow group member after she dared add a suggestion to a post from a desperate mother whose child was waking frequently during the night. The post was about what appeared to be a hungry child that was no longer being sustained on her mother’s breastmilk; as a result, she woke often and cried all…

Things are finally starting to get easier, with a few exceptions.

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I wanted to write this post in an effort to follow up on my previous article, “Things They Don’t Tell New Mothers.” Surprisingly, the first installation received a decent bit of attention on Medium and beyond, which has encouraged me to divulge more about what I’ve found at the bottom of the trenches of new motherhood. Now that we’ve kept our child alive for 6 months (more now, actually), I’m looping back to share what I’ve discovered since I last spilled on the details of becoming a new mom.

Exploring what it means to want to trust the untrustworthy

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My sister Katherine* and I were always close. Growing up, it was I who went to the bus stop to threaten her bullies for throwing her Mother’s Day project out of the school bus window. She was always different, though- at three years younger than me- we look almost exactly alike to the point at which we are often confused for one another. …

How raising a tiny human calls your own insecurities out into the light

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For the record, I do not consider myself to be one of those elite parents who seem to have it all together. This is an ode to the real MVP's: the moms and dads who walk the difficult, uphill path of raising human children with both confidence and an air of detachment from the world around them. …

This isn’t your mother-in-law’s unsolicited advice

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Newborn humans are a special kind of adorable; they’re wrinkly, they resemble the old man version of Benjamin Button, and they have an awkward/funny way of trying to navigate their new world. Their baby noises, quirks, and facial expressions are endearing and sometimes, even comical.

But they’re also incredibly difficult, challenging, and exhausting little people who rely entirely on their parents and caregivers for every.single.thing, big and small, from repeated diaper changes to constant feedings.

The physical act of becoming a new mother is often forgotten in the days and weeks that come afterwards…

Learning to coexist with thy “enemy”

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My husband and I come from similar family backgrounds. Both sets of parents identify as conservative Republicans with hearty appetites for all things tradition. All four are Trump supporters who plan to vote for him again in November.

Back in 2016, my husband was anticipating the much-anticipated opportunity to vote for Trump, believing in his own way that his vote would help “make America great again.” His family hails from northern Pennsylvania where coal veins and American convention run equally deep, and long-term job security is held in high regard. …

Meet prenatal depression, postpartum’s ugly cousin.

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We’ve all likely heard of postpartum depression, or the period following the birth of a child during which mothers sometimes experience the clinical symptoms of severe depression. Celebrities Chrissy Teigen, Drew Barrymore, and Gwyneth Paltrow have shared their personal journeys with postpartum, describing their own encounters with its depressive episodes as “scary” and “painfully debilitating.”¹ …

Woman is angry and screaming as a wisp of smoke
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Misophonia is a nightmare.

Still relatively unknown outside of the medical community, misophonia is a sound-related disorder that elicits extreme emotional reactions in those affected in response to normal human noise. Each person with misophonia has their own set of triggers; some people are pushed over the edge by the sounds of eating, while others find themselves enraged by the repetitive clicking of pens or the sniffing of noses. Misophonia currently has no cure and- at a prevalence rate of less than 200,000 known cases¹ of the disorder in the United States- there doesn’t seem to be much of a…

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